Acceptance . Empathy . Curiosity
Are you considering fostering but wondering how it will impact on your own children? We’re here to help!
Fostering is a big decision for anyone, especially when you have your own children to consider. By welcoming a new child into your home, you have to consider how your children will manage the changes that will likely happen within the home.
Below, our Director and Registered Manager, Katie, speaks about her experience of being a birth child in a fostering family:
Being a birth child in a fostering family:
“My parents began fostering when I was 2 years old, they fostered many different children throughout my childhood and only stopped fostering when I was 24 years old so for me, fostering was a very normal part of growing up. Looking back now, I can see how fostering has molded me into the person I am today. It was not always easy, that’s for sure. My mum and Dad were very experienced foster parents therefore they would often care for some quite challenging and complex children. Sometimes these children had so much anger within them that they would break things, throw things and scream. As a child, this can seem scary at times, but I was always very aware that my mum and dad knew what to do and would manage the situation, whatever it was. I think one way that my mum and dad ensured our fostering career succeeded was by making sure my brother and I each had time alone with them each week. Looking back, I can see that they were aware that we were “sharing” our parents, so wanted to carve out special time for us. For me, this really helped. My Saturday mornings shopping with mum were fun and also gave me a chance to have a little moan if anything felt a bit tricky at home.
Although there were lots of challenges, there were also SO many highs. We had a lot of fun with the children we cared for, we had family holidays and played in the street with our neighbours, all the things families normally do really! Fostering taught me a lot about the differences in peoples backgrounds and I think ultimately taught me about tolerance (you never know what someone may be experiencing at home eh?).
I know for certain that I would not be where I am today without having been a birth child in a fostering household. I have always known I wanted to become a Social Worker to work with fostering families like ours. My experience most definitely supports me daily in my role at TheraParent Fostering as I am able to empathise with foster parents and their children.
I would advise anyone considering fostering who has their own children to take time to involve them in the process and to consider their views. Your TheraParent Fostering Social Worker will get to know you and your children well and will be there to offer your children support and training when they need it.
”If you’re worried about the impact of fostering on your birth children, or if you (or they) have any questions about fostering at all, please get in touch. We would be more than happy to help.